Call or Text 949-534-2604

ERIC RUFFING M.A., AMFT,  REGISTERED ASSOCIATE MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST # 95623,  

EMPLOYED BY AND UNDER SUPERVISION OF ERIN POLLARD LMFT, LPCC  LICENSE #MFC50907)

-Ericruffingtherapy.com serving: Orange County, Aliso Viejo, Anaheim, Anaheim Hills, Buena Park, Capo Beach, Cerritos, Corona Del Mar, Costa Mesa, Coto De Caza, Cypress, Dana Point, El Toro, Fountain Valley, Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Irvine, Ladera, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Laguna Nigel, Lake Forest, La Habra, Long Beach, Los Alamitos, Los Angeles, Mission Viejo, Monarch Beach, Newport Beach, Orange, Placenta, San Clemente, Rancho Santa Margarita, Juan Capistrano, Santa Ana, Seal Beach, Turtle Rock, Tustin, Westminster, Villa Park, Yorba Linda.

A huge part of wisdom is to understand the problem, rather than understanding the answer. Maybe the answer is to understand the problem.

- Gil Fronsdal

 
Our work together is a chance for you to (re)define yourself
in a way that supports and strengthens your truths, dreams,
hopes & balance for your life.
Why "The Problem" has shown up is part of your story, but I have found that change happens when we define, investigate & evaluate what "The Problem" is doing to your life and why you don't like it?  Problems generate stories that you may come to believe about yourself which then create anxiety, guilt, depression, stress, worry, low self-esteem, confusion, anger, unfairness, grief or others, over time these beliefs become a way to evaluate your self. I'll collaborate with you to find the space for you to re-discover, create new skills, understanding, abilities and mental space for you separate the effects "The Problem" has on how you see yourself. A new sustainable & happier life story can emerge that supports your dreams, goals, culture, future and separates problems as problems and not personal "dysfunctions".

By INVESTIGATING WHAT IS BEING DONE TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP we can STOP THE BLAME + DEBATE. Becoming Free to place efforts on collaboration to find out what the relationship has lost? what the relationship needs? is capable of? and what dreams you have for its future?

We will focus on evaluating how "The Problem" is limiting your relationship and how it is influencing each others behaviors and communication. Couples usually come in feeling stuck on how to fix the problem that has changed what once was. I believe you both have made your best effort to solve these problems but feel stuck, frustrated, confused, or angry. Together we can deconstruct the dynamic that is happening and re-direct energy away from debate and blame. Strengthening the relationship and areas that support each other, your needs, meaningful goals, and future for your relationship.